27 December 2007

Christmas

Well, my computer has been broken for the last few months. This means that I have been unable to really get pics off my camera, and that's why the pics have been less frequent lately. If I ever get pics off the camera I might go back to the older posts and affix the appropriate pictures. But at least for Christmas, I have pics because my brother took a bunch and gave me the files. Yay!

Sasha riding a little bike at my parents house, soon after we first arrived. Once she sat on it, she just sat there watching all the goings on. She isn't really familiar with my parents or her cousins, and especially not my parents house, so she had to sort of soak it all in before she would do anything. She was a bit overwhelmed. It takes her a bit to warm up to new people or situations and she usually copes with it by withdrawing and observing. She was clinging to my leg for a while. Her uncle was taking the pics of her and she wasn't sure what to make of him and his flashy camera yet.Finally warming up to her Uncle Mikey and his flashy camera :)

Here we have all the kids together. My two girls and my brother's three kids. Baby Madison is about four months old now.


Opening presents with her Daddy. She wasn't really paying much attention to any of the gift opening, especially once she got her first present open. She just wanted to play with that toy. She didn't care there were more toys!
I think she's got another molar coming in. She keeps sticking that tongue out.Playing with one of her christmas presents while sitting in mommy's lap. The particular gift she's playing with is a clear plastic ball with stuff inside it.

Merry Christmas


Just a quick post to wish our family and friends a Merry Christmas.
We travelled up north to visit my family on Christmas Eve, and stayed overnight in a hotel. There, Sasha received many Christmas gifts, and got to see her cousins. She had already received her gifts from her Mom & Dad, a Kettler Kettrike Limited Edition Navigator (fancy German Tricycle), which she really likes! And she had already received some presents in the mail, like a toy cleaning set from her grandma (loves it!) and a Tickle Me Elmo from Mike, relative on my husband's side of the family. She got a set of megablocks from her big sister, which are like larger sized Legos for little ones and she likes those a lot too!
Cassie got a Karaoke machine, which is what she wanted. I gave her a chunk of cash to go shopping with at the mall and she spent it on clothes and jewelery.
Jon and I got a crock pot and some Wii games.
While staying at the hotel, Sasha got to go swimming for her first time! She seemed to like it. She wasn't happy or excited or anything, just very alert and looked like she was taking in the new experience with caution.
We had to drive back home on Christmas day so that I could return to work that night.

22 December 2007

Boyfriend!

Here's a non-Sasha related post. Cassie has her first boyfriend.
Awwww! How cute!

She is 13 years old, and had a crush on Tyler, one of the boys in her math class, for the past few months. She was too scared to talk to him. She had a friend of hers, who was a friend of his, play mediator between them. Her friend talked to him and told him that Cassie liked him. Her friend says that he said he liked her too and would ask her out. Then her friend said that he said he tried but that Cassie shot him down. Cassie said she didn't realize he was trying to make an attempt at anything, just thought it was a casual conversation. Doh! She told her friend and her friend corrected the miscommunication. Tyler then asked her if she wanted to 'go out' and she said yes. So apparently that officially makes them a couple.

Now they're not 'going out', as in, going someplace together. I guess 'going out' is just a status, not an intention of traveling together. Hah!

For now, Cassie and Tyler are too scared to talk to each other. It appears that 'going out' does not involve them interacting much. But the new couple is the talk of the school, and Cassie says everyone is happy for them. She even changed her myspace page relationship status to say "in a relationship".

Middle school love. How sweet and innocent :)

Toddler Weight Loss

We are concerned about the weight loss Sasha has experienced over the last three months. At her 12 month exam, she weighed 18lbs 14ounces, and at her 15 month exam, she weighed 18lbs 8oz; so she has lost 6 ounces. I suppose that might not be much, but it's a weight loss when she should be gaining. She used to be at the 50th percentile for weight for her first 9 months, but now she's dropped below the third percentile for her weight at her age.
I know that toddler growth slows down after a year of age, thus requiring less food. But Sasha was always a picky eater. Actually, she just didn't seem to like the eating concept in general. But within the last few weeks or so, Sasha has finally started eating.
I wasn't surprised that her gain wasn't as large as most children should be. But even before her well baby exam, I knew that we would not see much of a weight gain. The loss of weight was a surprise to me, however.
My hope right now is that because Sasha is actually increasing her food intake by leaps and bounds lately, that her growth rate is now increasing. I don't know if it's enough to make up for what she hasn't gained before, but she is definitely improving. Of course, the doctor didn't seem to understand that she was already on the increase.

For now, I think our plan is to continue to offer her foods many times a day. Instead of three meals a day, we do a bunch of mini-meals and try to keep her constantly grazing.
Despite the doctor suggesting we wean Sasha, I really don't want to do that during the middle of the cold and flu season. She gets extra immunological benefits from nursing. Several times I have seen her fight off colds and flus that have laid my husband out and I attribute that to the benefits of nursing. I am encountering a lot of sick coworkers, and I am afraid that I am bringing some extra germs home to my family. So I do not want to wean her now. Instead, I am trying a new tactic. I do not nurse Sasha until after she has eaten all she can at a meal. Then I top her off with a nursing session. She always has room for milk and regardless of how full she is, she never ever refuses nursing. It's like her dessert, lol.

I do want to keep trying to give her nutritional foods, but I do admit it has sort of become a feed-Sasha free-for-all, where we give her anything that interests her. Sweets, high fat foods, anything that she'll eat. Bad foods are better than no food at all, right? I am hoping that we can curb this after we get her weight problem under control so we don't develop some bad eating habits.

Articles I am reading on how to feed picky toddlers:
Dr Sears- FEEDING TODDLERS: 17 TIPS FOR PLEASING THE PICKY EATER
Dr Sears- IS YOUR CHILD GETTING ENOUGH TO EAT? HOW TO TELL
kellymom- Nutrition for nursing toddlers
Boosting Calories in your Child's Diet

Toddlers like mine and their mother's takes on the problem:
Mothering your nursing toddler
Berkeley Parents Network- Toddlers Not Eating

15 Month Well Baby Exam


We had Sasha's routine 15 Month Well Baby Exam on Tuesday.

In her past exams, she usually started crying the moment she sees the nurse. The nurse at the pediatrician's office is the same nurse she sees every visit from the time she was a week old onward, so she recognizes her as bad news. This time, Sasha didn't cry immediately upon seeing her and was mostly cordial at first. We stripped her down to her diaper and she was amused with that. She likes to play with her belly button, so any time she's got no shirt on, she's a happy belly-button picking girl. Sasha also found the scale in the exam room to be a fun toy. She liked to step on and off of it like it was a fun wobbly step. When the nurse came back in the room, Sasha happily stepped on the scale for her. The nurse seemed confused at the weight, 19lbs, and decided to try to weigh Sasha on the scale in the other exam room. That other scale is the scale Sasha had always been weighed on in previous visits and was the baby scale... you know the kind that weighs in pounds and ounces and sits on a tabletop.
The baby scale said Sasha weighed 18lbs 8oz. This was concerning. At her 12 month exam, Sasha weighed 18lbs 14oz. This meant she lost weight instead of a gain. Not good. Sasha doesn't seem to have gained much weight since she was 9 months old.
I've had a difficult time transitioning Sasha to solids, as I've mentioned in previous posts. She kept refusing to eat. Only in the last three weeks has Sasha shown even the slightest interest in solid foods. So I wasn't surprised at the low weight but I wasn't expecting a weight loss.

The nurse measured Sasha's height, and she did gain an inch of height. She is now 30 inches long. Sasha protested the height measurement process by screaming and crying.
The nurse left and the doctor came in the room. He was very upset about the weight loss and about Sasha's weight. According to his growth charts, Sasha is now below the third percentile in weight for her age. He kept saying "No this is not good". He started insisting that I wean Sasha from breastfeeding and implied that nursing is no longer a good source of nutrition for a toddler after a year of age, and that nursing ruins her appetite. I'm not sure what to think of his statement, but I gues that's for another post. He said that Sasha is malnourished, that we were retarding her brain development, and kept saying "This is not good".

Usually, the next pediatric exam wouldn't be until 18 months, but he wants to see her in one month to do a more thorough evaluation of her weight and nutritional status. He is going to do some bloodwork on her at that exam to check if she is anemic or if she has any malnutritional deficiencies.

The doctor continued his examination, under much protest from Sasha. He is very thorough in his examinations. He checked her abdomen, bones, joints, fontanelle status, and had us make her walk so he could observe her gait. All that was good.

They wanted to administer two shots at this visit, the mmr shot, and the chicken pox vaccination. The MMR shot has my husband nervous, with all the accusations of links to autism, but we did allow her to receive the shot. I refused the chicken pox vaccine. I suppose I could write a separate post on that but it is not required by law and I would prefer she get the chicken pox instead of the vaccine.

After the shots, the visit was complete. Sasha was quite mad at that mmr shot. I know it hurt. We set up an appointment for one month from now, and for her 18 month well baby exam. We shall see how her weight is at her evaluation next month.

08 December 2007

Monkey See, Monkey Do


Lately, Sasha has been a great imitator. We are learning about some of the things we do that we don't realize we are doing! Here are some fun examples.

My husband has a cold with a cough, runny nose, and sneezing. The whole works. Sasha darling, who is not sick, now likes to imitate her daddy. You'd think she's got a cold with all the fake coughing, sneezing, and sniffling noises she's making. She thinks it's hilarious. I tell her "bless you!" every time she fake sneezes, and that really keeps her going.

Then today as Sasha was brushing her teeth, I noticed she kept tilting her head down so her chin touched her chest once in a while. I couldn't figure out what she was doing. Brush-brush-brush-brush-tilt, repeat. Eventually, when she finally got a stream of spittle going and managed to make a 'pthooey' sound, I realized what she was doing...she was trying to spit. Just like mommy and daddy do when they brush their teeth. I didn't realize she was watching us so closely.

Cassie has been on the phone all the time lately, talking to her friends, as 13 year old teenager like to do. She seems like she's got that phone permanently attached to her ear. Sasha likes to walk around with random objects up to her ear while 'talking', just like sister talking on the phone. Then Sasha started saying "Dood" on her 'phone' all the time. Again, it took me a little while to realize what was going on. Cassie was talking excitedly to one of her friends, chanting "Dude! DUDE! DUDE!", and there was Sasha saying "Dood! Dood! Dood!". Hah! I guess she thinks when you're on the phone, you should say "dude" a lot.

I'm sure I'll have plenty more of these.

07 December 2007

Clingy, Affectionate, Hungry, Whiny


As my title suggests, Sasha has been clingy, super affectionate, whining a lot, and strangely very hungry. I'm glad that she is eating so well lately, and I do love all the extra affection she's been showing us. But it's interesting. She's affectionate to everyone, everything, all the time. If she is awake, she is constantly hugging or kissing on something. A stuffed animal, a doll, a family member, or even a calculator manual. Yes. She kissed a calculator manual!? Silly little girl! She's been more content to just park herself in my lap or in my arms and she'll just stay there.

Her second molar finally broke through. I suspect she is fighting off whatever illness my husband is suffering from. She's been eating like a horse, so I think she's probably going through a growth spurt. Anyone who remembers what a growth spurt feels like, I'm sure they can remember growing pains. They hurt! So I'd presume a growth spurt is a painful process for a young child. Combine all of the above, and we have a whiny, clingy child. I wish I could take away all her pain and discomfort.

04 December 2007

Sasha's House


Here is one of the toys Sasha LOVES whenever we go to her little preschool program. It's an old toy though, not available for sale anymore. It's a Little Tykes play house. She loves to open and close the front door. The mailbox opens and closes and there is a plastic envelope that can go in the mailbox like little fake mail. There's a little garden with plastic carrots and turnips and stuff that she can pull out. There are flowers and spinning birds. And even a doorbell. She mostly just opens and closes the door, and opens and closes the mailbox repeatedly, never getting bored of that.

Most of the time she spends at the Monday preschool program, she spends defending her house. Sometimes other little intruders try to come inside but she stands her ground. She doesn't push them. They might try to push her, but she stubbornly stands firm and eventually they go away and leave her to her house again. Now that's my girl!

Sasha Can Moo....Can You?

Sasha has added some new "words" to her vocabulary...animal sounds! I've been working with her on those, especially now that she has a puzzle with pictures of animals on it that she likes to play with. She's also taken a new enjoyment in reading with me, and some of her books have animals in them also.
She can now Quack like a duck, Tweet like a bird, Woof like a dog, Moo like a cow, and Baa like a sheep. We're working on some other sounds too but I don't think I've heard them yet. Yesterday, I saw a flock of geese flying overhead while we were in a store parking lot. I pointed up in the air at them and said "Look Sasha! Birds!". She watched in rapt amazement at the geese flying through the air. She then signed the sign language for 'bird' and said "Tweet Tweet". Clever little girl!

Like I said, Sasha has a great interest in books lately. She'll grab a book from her bookcase, then she'll walk over to me. If I am sitting on the floor cross legged, she'll turn herself around so her back is facing me and will slowly walk herself backwards and sit herself down in my lap. That means it's time to read. She turns the pages and points at the pictures in her books, and I read to her or tell her what is going on in the pictures. I'm so glad that she is so interested in reading.

Sasha still has a mouthful of teeth coming in and several of those teeth look painful. My husband is still sick, and he's been trying to keep from spreading it to me or Sasha. Sasha has been a little more crabby than usual today and she's been grabbing at her neck. I'm not sure if that means she's getting a sore throat or not. I hope not! My husband says he feels absolutely miserable so I hope she is spared.

30 November 2007

Demands


At the doctor's office waiting on her Daddy. She got a big kick out of the little chairs and the books and puzzles.


Lately, Sasha has been making requests. Or shall I say demands?
This past week, whenever I sit on the floor, Sasha will toddle up to me, sit in my lap, look me straight in the eyes with a stern expression, sign milk at me, and will grab at my shirt as if to say "Milk now woman...that's an order". She's always signed milk, but usually during nursing, not as a request to nurse until now. It's funny but it will quickly get old.
"Tea" is her newest sign. Of course. She's a little tea fiend. Again, it's as a request/order, not as a cute little "aww look mommy it's tea" kind of thing. It's like "Tea NOW mother". I'm pretty proud of her new sign.

Today she was playing with her cabbage patch doll and it was very cute. She was mothering it. She was feeding it a toy bottle, hugging and kissing it, dancing with it, making it dance, making it ride her toy car, and she gave it to her daddy to take care of a few times as well. She's been affectionate with her doll, her stuffed polar bear, and her stuffed doggy.
Actually, she's been super affectionate all week to everyone. Kisses for everybody, especially mommy! I swear I get like 50 spontaneous kisses a day from that sweet child. I can't imagine a more affectionate toddler.

She wants to give her daddy kisses too, but unfortunately he is sick. I had to take the night off work last night as he was ill. It came on very suddenly. Within an hour or two, he went from ok to unable to speak. He came down with a sore throat, his nose and ears and sinuses hurt. I think he had a headache and body ache as well but no fever. It was scary how fast it seemed to be spreading so I took him to the doctor. They were mostly useless. The rest of us have been ok. So far I'm feeling fine, Sasha is showing no signs of illness, and Cassie is ok too. I'm hoping that whatever he's got was something I got vaccinated against with my flu shot, thus passing immunity to Sasha. I hope. I just have to keep an eye on Cassie as she did not get a flu shot. I REALLY hope we don't have everybody sick! That would suck.

28 November 2007

Bookstore Beauty

At the bookstore after trying to get her portraits taken.

I just LOVE her dress and pigtails. She looks so tiny amongst the aisles of books.

Holiday Pictures

Professional Christmas Portraits. Click to enlarge
I didn't get Sasha's 1 year professional pictures taken. Instead I waited and took her for the holidays. I figured I'd get something for a christmas card. I got a GORGEOUS dress for her. The pictures don't do it justice, it was sparkly and a pretty deep emerald color with fluffy white trimming on the wrists and bottom.
This photo session was a bit of a disappointment. I took her to the place I always take her. The girl there that usually takes Sasha's picture must have had the day off. Instead there was some really LOUD obnoxious woman. The moment I saw the woman working with another child, I knew we would have trouble. Sasha is really shy, easily upset, and dare I say high strung? So a loud, overbearing obnoxious in-your-face sort of person is going to get Sasha crying and upset. Not the look I was going for on a christmas card.
When it was our turn, I tried to tell the woman. I said Sasha is shy and doesn't really like loud or aggressive people, she prefers to warm up to people. She acted offended. "WELL SHE WON'T LIKE ME CUZ I'M LOUD!" (duh?) and she started trying to poke Sasha in the belly, which of course annoyed Sasha and made her cling to me. The woman tried to pick Sasha up and put her on the stage and Sasha got pissed. She kept trying to get in Sasha's face, yelling BOO, tickling her, and doing other stuff but of course it just pissed off and scared Sasha even more.
We spent the next 20 minutes trying to calm Sasha down. The woman knew sign language, so the moment I mentioned that Sasha was signing to me ("all done!") she actually quieted down and started signing to Sasha. Sasha started warming up to the woman while she was in her sign language phase.
Once Sasha was moderately calmed down, I was able to get her on stage by letting her play with a prop gift box. The top of the box came off so I hid a few other props in the box and Sasha played with that. It was enough to mostly get some pictures. Sasha gave us like 3 minutes before she had another melt down so we weren't able to do any cute poses or backgrounds or anything. Just a non-crying baby was the best we could do. Sasha looks like she's thinking "Wtf?" at the photographer in most of the pics.

After the pictures were over, we were sitting at a desk to review the pictures and put together portraits and packages. Sasha was running around, happy as a clam. Figures. This apparently annoyed the woman. Whatever. She tried to pick Sasha up by her upper arms. Now I don't know about anyone else, but you pick babies up under their armpits, you don't grab them by their arms. I cringed. Sasha arched her back and threw a holy temper tantrum. The woman acted so offended and I thought she was going to throw Sasha on the ground or drop her. Fortunately she didn't, she at least set Sasha back down. But still, the nerve. This woman works with children as a job? I don't understand. She's lucky my husband wasn't there or he'd probably have kicked her ass a few times.

Although the pictures were cute (because Sasha was in them), I knew they could have been so much better. Like I said, I'm disappointed. The pics are not what I envisioned. When we got home, Sasha was so gorgeous in her pigtails, big blue eyes, and pretty dress. I tried to take some pictures with my camera but I couldn't get a good picture. She was tired and wired by the time I got her home. So I guess the picture I wanted is just not meant to be. I'll have to hold that image of my gorgeous little holiday girl in my head instead.

25 November 2007

BornLearning.org

I saw a commercial on tv for BornLearning.org. Apparently it's a partnership between the United Way, the Ad Council, Civitas, and Families and Work Institute to help parents, caregivers, and the community create quality early learning opportunities for young children. As the mother of a young child, the ad caught my attention so I checked out the website and found it interesting.
For the most part, it had information that I already knew, and listed a few cute ideas for ways to turn regular daytime activities into learning opportunities. The one pdf article that caught my interest was titled "Understanding Children: How does my child learn?" I'm not sure how long this site will be up, so I hope they don't mind me pasting part of their cute little quiz, a guide to three learning styles:
The following is a guide to three learning styles.
Is he a looker?
When he wishes to express himself, he...
...points to what he wants
...responds with gestures, not words
...plays very quietly
...likes to observe goings on, rather than participate
...didn't babble until late in his first year
When he plays, he...
...likes dangling toys, colors, and motion
...is visually alert
...looks at picture books
When he moves about, he...
...watches his hands while playing
...reached for objects before he was 5 months of age
...likes to explore small objects with his hands
...likes to pick up and place small puzzle pieces, and enjoys puzzles and shape sorters
When he is fussy, he...
...is quited by the sight of a familiar face
...is calmed by a familiar toy
...is easily distracted by a change of scenery
Is he a Listener?
When he wishes to express himself, he...
...babbled early and frequently
...said his first words before age one
...follows directions easily
...tries to imitate words spoken by others
...uses inflection when vocalizing
When he plays, he...
...likes rattles and noisemakers
...likes rhymes, songs, and finger plays
...seems to 'eavesdrop' in conversations
...babbles to his toys
When he moves about, he...
...was slow to sit up, and more interested in babbling
...is consumed by talking, not walking
...prefers riding toys that make noise
...uses toys mainly to create sounds
When he is fussy, he...
...is quieted by the sound of a familiar voice
...is calmed by music
...is easily distracted by a xylophone or piano
Is he a Mover?
When he wishes to express himself, he...
...uses gestures rather than words
...is prone to tantrums
...shakes his head to indicate "no"
...grabs at objects and toys impulsively
...rarely babbles at all
When he plays, he...
...likes being bounced and tickled
...likes to be rocked, cuddled, and held
...often kicks at his crib mobile
...enjoys swings and bike rides
When he moves about, he...
...sat without support before six months of age
...crawled before eight months of age and walked before age one
...is very active
...used riding toys before ten months of age
When he is fussy, he...
...is quieted by being picked up
...is calmed by being held and rocked
...is easily distracted by a massage or car ride
LOOKING or Visual Learning involves responding to visual stimulation, like motion, color, shape, and size.
LISTENING or Auditory Learning has more to do with sounds and spoken words.
MOVING or Tactile and Kinesthetic Learning, happens through touch and movement.

By this little quiz, I'd have to say my 14 month old daughter Sasha is a LISTENER. I would have originally thought she was a LOOKER but the more I think about it, I guess she must be a Listener after all.
I think, however, that all babies learn by looking, listening, and moving...not just by one method alone. I'm sure the BornLearning folks didn't mean to imply otherwise. The BornLearning folks do, however, suggest that you adjust your teaching style to the learning style of your toddler. I do agree with that to some degree. Of course you should individualize your teaching style to your toddler's learning style. But should you only teach your LOOKING child in a LOOKING style? That I don't think I agree completely with. I think a child should learn how to learn in the styles that he is weak in, to make him more well rounded. To omit other learning styles, I believe, would make him stronger in an area he is already strong in and weaken his ability to learn in other styles.
But I'm no child development expert, just a mother. I think I'll just take this information with a grain of salt and continue what I'm already doing. I do find it interesting and I love finding ways to describe my child. As a former Cosmo reader, I love quizzes anyways.

24 November 2007

Happy Thanksgiving

We didn't do anything special for our Thanksgiving holiday, as I had to work.
Cassie went up to my parents for the four-day weekend. She likes to do the Black Friday shopping stuff with her Grandma. They can have it. I think Black Friday shoppers are insane. I'm staying in my home where it's safe and I'm sleeping. I'll do my xmas shopping online this year most likely. Cassie says she and her Grandma went to Walmart early Black Friday morning, and there was a lot of pushing and shoving. People were hitting Cassie with their carts :( But she's ok, she didn't get hurt and she probably did her own share of shoving as well. I guess they did loot a good digital camera for only $90 and a Guitar Hero game for about $60. Not bad!

Amanda!

What have you been up to??? I miss talking to you.